We’ve all met a person whose behavior doesn’t fit their actual age. There are a lot of reasons for this, but one of the most common reasons is the surroundings of the person who is not acting their age.

Their family, love life and background…

Most of the time, when people don’t receive enough love and attention, they stop growing emotionally and mentally, because their emotional intelligence can develop only if they have experience based on the emotional. When it comes to developing relationships, the lack of emotional experience in these people changes their needs and requirements. They posses different mindsets and also perceive things differently.

Love and affection throughout their childhood…

If the child stops receiving love and affection throughout its childhood, it can damage and confuse its sense of trust and love, and it’s impossible for the child to adapt to the lack of these essential things. When they become adults, these people face with huge problems adjusting to socialization. They feel like they are completely excluded and have no idea what to do about it.
When it comes to relationships, they are powerless, easily hurt and completely lost. They appear to be quite shy and quiet and they rarely talk about their true feelings.

Lack of love and affection…

It’s interesting how these people manage to hide their true emotions – they do it so well. No matter how hard they try to fight this, they simply can’t, because it’s stronger than them. They believe that everyone is constantly thinking negatively about them and that they are being judged all the time.

Why is this happening? It’s mainly because they didn’t receive enough love and affection from their parents.

So, before planning on having a child, we should all think about if we are ready to offer enough love, affection, time and devotion that a child would need. It’s an enormous responsibility, and you probably don’t want to be the main person responsible for someone’s difficulties throughout their life.

These people need proper therapy, during adulthood. Otherwise, they are not going to have enough time to concentrate on their goals, hopes, dreams and love lives, because most of the time they will be tortured by thoughts of how incomplete they are.

Children need to be showered with love. Parents have to offer their children a sense of security in order to prevent them from feeling completely alone while growing up. Remember, if you want your child to grow up into a happy, healthy and independent person ready to prosper and love, it needs to be loved.

No room for panic…

We are not saying that a person who didn’t receive enough love and affection throughout their childhood is not going to be just the same as those who have, but it’s a fact that they are going to face up with a lot of difficulties before they manage to accomplish these things.

Did you recognize yourself in these words? If the answer is yes, don’t worry, there is no room for panic. Luckily, there are many ways to heal. First of all, you have to let the child in you speak out. Stop holding it back and listen to what the little you has wanted to say for so many years. Think about the little you. What is it like? Can you visualize it in your head? Now, try to look around you. Do you see any people or scenery? That can reveal a lot about the state you are in.

If you want to heal, you have to let yourself be your own parent and child at the same time.

The process of healing from a broken childhood is laborious, time consuming and sometimes even awkward. But you have to do this in order to free your soul from all these worries and traumas that have been haunting you throughout your whole life.

It’s high time you started loving and valuing yourself…

First of all, we want to wish you good luck! Don’t forget that you are not alone. You need to become a self-confident and self-respecting person in order to be able to love and appreciate those around you, especially your children!

This post was rewritten from Smart Mind Mag You can find the original post here.